A crossdresser who want to wear stockings & suspenders to the office

Abbie

I’m a cross-dresser who loves wearing stockings and suspenders at home. They bring me comfort and make me feel like myself.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about wearing them to work — under my trousers, so no one would see them. I work in a normal office, and none of my colleagues know this side of me.

Do you think this is a good idea, or am I taking too much of a risk?

Thank you for your thoughtful question and for trusting me with such a personal topic. Cross-dressing is a beautiful form of self-expression, and I understand you want to feel the same comfort and confidence you enjoy at home while at work. The idea of wearing stockings under your trousers, where no one can see them, seems like a creative way to merge both worlds. Still, it’s important to weigh the potential risks alongside your desire for self-expression.

Let’s break it down:

What you’re really asking isn’t about stockings.

It’s about how much of yourself you want to carry into your everyday life — and what that costs emotionally.

Wearing stockings under your clothes would likely stay private. If they’re truly hidden, no one else would know. That means you stay in control of who gets to see that part of you.

And for some people, carrying a private truth under ordinary clothes feels grounding. Like you’re walking through the world more honestly — even if no one else can see it.

But privacy isn’t the same as peace.

Ask yourself this:

Would this make me feel calmer and more myself —
or more alert, guarded, and anxious?

Because secrecy can feel exciting, but it can also create tension. You might feel empowered… and also constantly checking your shirt, your waistband, your posture. That kind of quiet vigilance takes energy.

There’s also the question of risk.

Even small risks matter if you’re not ready to explain. A shirt riding up. Bending. Stretching. A moment you didn’t plan for. If you’re not prepared for even a small chance of being seen, that anxiety can outweigh the comfort you were hoping for.

So the decision isn’t about whether it’s “allowed.”
It’s about whether it serves you.

You might try asking yourself:

Would this help me feel more at ease in my body — or more on edge?
Am I doing this for calm, or for thrill?
What would I do if someone noticed?

If the idea feels steady — not thrilling, not scary, just quietly right — it might be something worth trying on a low-pressure day.

If it feels charged, risky, or tense, that’s information too.

There’s no rule that says self-expression has to happen everywhere at once. Some parts of us live best in safe, chosen spaces. That isn’t hiding — that’s protecting something precious.

What matters most is not where you wear stockings —
but whether wearing them helps you feel more like yourself, not less.

This is one story about stockings. If they keep coming up for you — as comfort, secrecy, desire, or identity — this page brings those stories together:

→ Stockings Mean More Than Fabric