I want my man to wear sexy lingerie for me in the bedroom

Abbie,

 I LOVE dressing up in sexy lingerie for my man in the bedroom, but recently, I have been wanting him to do the same. How do I get him to do so?

Intimacy in a relationship is a dance of desire, where both partners should feel valued, wanted, and excited. As a woman who loves to wear sexy lingerie for her man in the bedroom and finds great joy in the thrill and connection it brings. Yet, you realise that you also yearn for him to reciprocate—to put in the same effort to excite and entice you. Here’s my answer and what I hope you will achieve by opening this conversation with your partner.

You enjoy wearing alluring lingerie for your man. The anticipation of his reaction, the confidence boost it gives you, and the intimate moments it creates have all been incredibly fulfilling. As a regular customer, I know you have explored various styles, from lacy bras and panties to daring bodysuits and stockings, each piece chosen to heighten your connection and keep the spark alive.

Wearing sexy lingerie has become a part of your intimate routine, something you look forward to and cherish. However, as your relationship deepened, you started longing for him to share in this effort—not just as an admirer but as an active participant. 

There are several reasons why I suspect you want your man to wear sexy lingerie underwear:

1. Mutual Effort : I believe that intimacy should be a two-way street, with both partners putting in effort to please and excite each other. When he takes the time to dress up, it shows that he values and reciprocates the effort you put in.
2. Increased Excitement : Seeing your man in sexy lingerie underwear would undoubtedly heighten my arousal and anticipation. The visual and tactile stimulation of seeing him in something special would add a new layer of excitement to our encounters.
3. Equality in Desire : By dressing up for you, he acknowledges that your desires and fantasies are just as important as his. It reinforces the idea that both partners’ needs are equally valued in your relationship.
4. Building Confidence : Just as wearing sexy lingerie boosts your confidence, I believe it could have the same effect on him. Feeling desired and attractive can enhance self-esteem and deepen your emotional connection.

Bringing up the topic of him wearing sexy lingerie underwear required sensitivity and openness. Here’s how to approach it:

1. Choose the Right Moment : Wait for a relaxed and intimate moment to raise the topic, ensuring you both feel comfortable and open to discussion.
2. Express your Feelings : Share your feelings honestly, explaining how much you enjoy dressing up for him and how you would love to see him do the same for you. Be clear with him that this desire stemmed from mutual love and wanting to enhance your intimacy.
3. Reassure Him : Reassure him that your request wasn’t a critique of his current efforts but rather an expression of your desires. Make it clear that you valued and cherished your existing intimacy and wanted to explore new dimensions together.
4. Be Patient and Understanding : This might be a new and potentially uncomfortable idea for him. Encourage him to take his time to think about it and assure him that there was no pressure to agree immediately.

To your delight, hopefully, he was open to the idea. Start by exploring different options together, choosing lingerie pieces he feels comfortable and confident in. From fitted boxers with subtle lace trims to daring briefs, I stock styles that appeal to both of you. The experience of him dressing up in lingerie for you will be transformative. It will add extra excitement and intimacy to your relationship, reinforcing your mutual desire and deepening your connection. Seeing him trying to fulfil your fantasies will make you feel incredibly valued and cherished.

Wearing sexy lingerie underwear for your man has always been a source of joy and excitement in your relationship. By expressing your desire for him to do the same, you have opened up a new avenue of mutual exploration and intimacy. This journey will teach you the importance of equal efforts and shared desires in maintaining a fulfilling and passionate relationship.

If you, a valued reader, are in a similar situation, I encourage you to communicate openly with your partner about your lingerie desires. Mutual respect and understanding can lead to a deeper connection and more satisfying intimacy. Remember, the dance of desire is most beautiful when both partners are equally engaged and invested.