My new man - Keeps asking me to wear Stockings

You’re not too old to wear stockings.
But you are allowed to decide they’re not for you.

Those are different things.

There is no age limit on stockings.
There is only choice.

What matters more than your birthday is how something makes you feel.
If the idea of stockings feels awkward, artificial, or simply not like you, that matters.

And the bigger issue here isn’t really age.
It’s pressure.

When someone repeatedly asks you to do something that makes you uncomfortable, it stops being a gift and starts becoming a request you didn’t ask for.

You’re allowed to say:

“I appreciate the thought, but this doesn’t feel like me.”
“I don’t want to feel pushed into wearing something.”
“I want to choose what I wear, not be steered into it.”

That’s not selfish.
That’s honest.

At the same time, you don’t have to treat this as a battle.

You can be clear without being cruel.

You might say:

“I know stockings mean something to you. I’m not saying never — but I don’t want them to be an expectation.”
“I might try them once, but only if it feels like my choice, not my duty.”

Trying something once, out of curiosity, is a choice.
Repeating it because you feel obliged is something else.

If you try them and think, “No — this really isn’t me,” that’s not failure.
That’s clarity.

You don’t owe anyone a performance.
Lingerie is supposed to support how you feel — not replace it.

And age has nothing to do with that.
Only ownership does.

Abbie is the agony aunt for those trying to navigate the world of lingerie. As an online lingerie owner, I help my customers with everything – from finding the sexy nightwear that will excite your partner to tips and tricks on making lingerie more comfortable. 

Do you have a question for Abbie?

To answer the questions that you might be too shy to ask your friends. Abbie is your lingerie fairy godmother. 

Email abbie@quinnbeauty.co.uk