my boyfriend wants to take photos of me wearing stockings

Abbie

From your site, I just ordered some sexy stockings and suspenders, which I am going to love wearing. 

However, my boyfriend said he'd love to take photos of me wearing them. While I trust him, I can't shake the fear that he might show these photos to his mates. I'm unsure if I should let him take the pictures. What should I do?

Thank you for buying some sexy stockings from me, as you said, I am sure you will love wearing them.

It is good that you are thinking carefully about this situation. When it comes to intimate stockings photos, us it is natural to feel vulnerable and to worry about how those images might be used. Your feelings and concerns are completely valid, and it’s important to address them before making any decisions.

This is not the first time I have encountered this, and I can give you several suggestions to help you.

Start by having an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend. Let him know how you’re feeling and why you’re hesitant. Ask him directly why he wants to take the photos of you wearing stockings, and what he plans to do with them. Sometimes, simply understanding his intentions can help put your mind at ease. For example, he might want to keep these photos as a private way to celebrate your relationship, with no intention of sharing them.

Once you understand his perspective, it’s time to set some boundaries. If you’re uncomfortable with the idea of the photos of you wearing stockings being shared with anyone else, make that clear. It’s important that both of you are on the same page. You might say something like, “I’m okay with taking the photos as long as we agree they’re for our eyes only.” If he truly respects you, he’ll understand and honour your request.

Reflect on the level of trust in your relationship. Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and it’s important to consider whether you trust your boyfriend to respect your wishes and privacy. If you have any doubts about whether he might share the photos of you in stockings with others, it’s perfectly okay to say no.

Your gut feelings are there for a reason. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore it. If the thought of these photos of you in stockings being taken makes you uncomfortable or anxious, it’s okay to decline. Your comfort and peace of mind are crucial.

If you’re open to the idea but still concerned about privacy, consider setting conditions that make you feel safer. For example, you could agree to keep the photos of you in stockings on a secure device, or perhaps take them in a way that doesn’t reveal your face. These compromises can help you feel more in control.

Ultimately, the decision should be yours, and it should be one that you’re comfortable with. If you’re not ready or comfortable with the idea of being photographed wearing stockings, it’s important to communicate that clearly and confidently. Your boyfriend should respect your feelings and not pressure you into anything you’re uncomfortable with. Remember, a healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, trust, and open communication.