My boyfriend wants me to wear lingerie sets - but I am on the big side

Dear Abbie,

I’m 43 and recently divorced, but I’ve met a lovely new boyfriend who’s been very kind and understanding. Everything is going well, except for one thing: he’s told me he has a passion for sexy lingerie sets and has asked me to wear some for him in the bedroom.

The problem is, while I’m not bad for my age, I’m on the plus side (Size 16) and feel completely ridiculous dressing up in lingerie. Isn’t that something for younger slimmer women? I’m worried I’ll look silly and ruin the moment.

I will tell you a little secret: confidence is timeless, sensuality is ageless, and lingerie is for everyone. Who told you lingerie is just for younger women? Whoever they were, they have never seen the power of a woman who knows her worth—lace, curves, and all.

Let’s break this down, step by step, and I’ll show you why lingerie is not only for you but can help you feel more radiant than ever.

Lingerie Is for Every Woman, Every Body

Lingerie isn’t just about looking good for someone else—it’s about celebrating yourself. It’s about slipping into something that makes you feel amazing, whether a bold lace bra, a sultry bodysuit, or a silky robe.

Age and size don’t define who gets to wear lingerie. The only requirement is the desire to embrace your beauty. Whether you’re a size 8 or a size 18, there’s a piece designed to make you feel like the goddess you are.

If you’re ready to dip your toes into lingerie, YESX has the perfect options to suit your style and comfort level.

YESX lingerie is perfect for size 16-18 women because it is thoughtfully designed to celebrate curves and enhance natural beauty. Their collections feature flattering cuts, high-quality stretch fabrics, and supportive designs that ensure a comfortable fit while accentuating your best features. From high-waisted panties that smooth and shape to bodysuits and bras with intricate lace detailing, YESX pieces are tailored to make curvier women feel confident, sexy, and empowered. The brand understands that sensuality has no size limit, offering a range of styles that embrace diversity and cater to every woman’s desire to feel stunning in her own skin.

Here’s the truth: your boyfriend isn’t asking for perfection. He isn’t expecting you to look like a lingerie ad or wear something that makes you feel uncomfortable. What he is asking for is your confidence, your willingness to embrace the moment, and your trust in him to appreciate you exactly as you are.

The secret to pulling off lingerie—whether it’s a bra set, a body, or a silky robe—is confidence. Your curves, your smile, and the way you carry yourself are what will make the moment unforgettable.

Start with a Conversation

If you’re feeling unsure, have an honest chat with your boyfriend. You might say:

“I love that you’re passionate about lingerie, but I feel a little nervous about trying it out. I want to feel confident and comfortable while sharing this experience with you.”

A kind and understanding partner will be excited to help you feel beautiful and reassure you every step of the way.

Treat Yourself to Something New

If your current wardrobe doesn’t include lingerie that excites you, consider investing in a few new pieces from YESX. Whether you opt for my lace bra set or a bodysuit—or both!—treat this as an opportunity to rediscover your sensuality. Lingerie shopping can be empowering, especially when you focus on how it makes you feel rather than anyone else.

At 43, you’re stepping into a new chapter of life—and there’s no better time to celebrate yourself. Lingerie is about embracing your power, your curves, and your unique beauty. It’s not about size, age, or anyone else’s expectations.

Slip into that YESX lingerie set, stand tall, and let yourself feel radiant. Your boyfriend will love it, but most importantly, you’ll love it. Because when you feel confident, you’ll realize that lingerie isn’t about what you wear—it’s about how it makes you feel.

Abbie