I love wearing holdups but my new boyfriend wants me to wear Stockings and Suspenders

First — his preference is not a criticism of you.

When someone says they like a certain look, it usually isn’t about what you’re doing wrong. It’s about a fantasy, a mood, or an image that means something to them. That doesn’t cancel out what you already bring to the table.

At the same time, your comfort matters just as much as his turn-ons.

The real question isn’t “Should I please him?”

It’s: “Do I want to try this — and if so, how?”

Start by being honest with yourself.
Do you dislike stockings and suspenders, or do they just feel unfamiliar?
Are you curious, or already resistant?

Then talk to him — not defensively, just clearly.

You might say:

• “I love my hold-ups because they make me feel confident.”

• “I’m curious about why stockings matter to you.”

• “I might try them once, but I don’t want it to feel like a requirement.”

If you’re open to experimenting, treat it like a choice, not a duty. Try it once. See how it feels. Keep the right to say, “That wasn’t really me.”

And if you try it and still prefer your hold-ups? That’s not a failure. That’s information.

You don’t exist to dress according to someone else’s fantasy.
Lingerie is supposed to support your confidence, not replace it.

The best look is always the one you feel like yourself in — whether that’s straps, lace, or nothing fancy at all.

Abbie