Felt powerful, sexy, & turned on by wearing Stockings and Suspenders

Dear Abbie,

I’m a 32-year-old woman, and my new boyfriend has been dropping heavy hints about me wearing stockings and suspenders for him. At first, I didn’t see the point—it’s just something that covers your legs. But I decided to try it to make him happy and purchased some from your site.

Wow, was I wrong! When I put them on, I felt powerful, sexy, and turned on. I was surprised by how much it changed my mood and confidence. But now I’m curious—why do stockings and suspenders have this effect?

What you felt wasn’t random.
And it wasn’t just about covering your legs.

You didn’t simply put something on — you chose it.
That choice is what changed how you felt.

Stockings and suspenders ask something of you.
They don’t disappear once they’re on.
They create lines, tension, awareness.
You move differently. You notice yourself.

That awareness is powerful.

When you dress with intention — not habit — you step out of autopilot.
You stop being someone getting through the day and become someone deciding how she wants to feel.

That’s why it didn’t feel neutral.
It felt charged.

You weren’t just wearing fabric.
You were paying attention to yourself.

There’s also something about rarity.
Things we don’t wear every day carry more meaning when we do.
They feel deliberate.
Chosen.
Not accidental.

That makes the mirror feel different.

Not because your body changed —
but because how you were looking at it did.

Stockings and suspenders also engage more than sight.
The way they feel on your skin.
The tension of the straps.
The time it takes to put them on properly.

All of that keeps you present in your body instead of rushing past it.
And when you’re present, confidence tends to show up quietly beside you.

What matters most is this:

Stockings didn’t give you power.
They gave you access to something you already had.

They didn’t create confidence —
they reminded you where it lives.

That’s why this isn’t really about your boyfriend at all.
It’s about what happens when you choose something that makes you notice yourself.

If you wear them again, do it because you want to feel that way —
not because anyone expects it.

And if one day you don’t, that’s not failure.
That’s choice.

This is one story about stockings. If you want to explore what they mean across desire, relationships, comfort, and choice, start here:

→ Stockings Mean More Than Fabric

If you ever choose to wear them again, do it on your terms:

Abbie