My weight has shot up and I hate being naked in front of my husband.

Abbie
Since having children a few years ago, my weight has shot up a few dress sizes than when I first married my husband.
He goes to great lengths to say he still cherishes my body, but I am ashamed to say I struggle to believe him.
I hate being naked and shy away from his touch at times.
What can I do to resolve this?

The main problem here is not your weight but your loss of confidence.
A supermodel without self-confidence can feel unattractive.
I know many plus-size women who ooze out sex appeal as they never doubt their right to be desired by their partners.

Learning to love your body is far more important than any diet to lose weight.
My friends spend blood, sweat and tears to drop a dress size and are no happier as their self-belief is still rock bottom.

Though you seem to have an advantage, your husband is still loving and can see beyond your weight to see a body that has flourished with children and years of marriage.
Your challenge is to see that he is telling the truth.
Once you come to accept this, then you can take steps to build back up your confidence.

Try looking at your diet and taking up a form of exercise.
Aerobic activity will tone and enhance your mood.

To add a bit of shameless selling here, why not invest in a flattering Shirley of Hollywood baby doll.

Baby dolls are loose-fitting, making them figure-enhancing, showing off your curves while your breasts get a boost, hiding those lumps and bumps you do not want to show.
That way you may find it easy with the lights on if you are semi-clad.

And remember your husband clearly has a desire for you and your body, and embrace that as a sign of your beauty.

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Abbie is the agony aunt for those trying to navigate the world of lingerie. As an online lingerie owner, I help my customers with everything from relationship problems to finding the sexy nightwear that will excite your partner to tips and tricks on making lingerie more comfortable. 

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