I want my man to cross dress and wear stockings and suspenders

Abbie

I often dress up in sexy stockings and suspenders for my husband, and he absolutely loves it. Recently though, I’ve found myself imagining him wearing stockings and suspenders too.

I even bought a set, telling myself it was for me, but I didn’t have the nerve to ask him to try them on. Now I’m wondering if this fantasy is strange, or if I should just drop it altogether.

Am I crazy for wanting this?

First of all, no — you’re not crazy.

Desires don’t arrive with explanations, and they don’t always fit the neat boxes we expect them to. Wanting to see your husband in stockings and suspenders doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or your relationship. It simply means something new has sparked your curiosity.

That’s more common than people like to admit.

Why this fantasy isn’t as unusual as it feels

You already connect stockings and suspenders with intimacy, confidence, and play. You wear them for him. He enjoys seeing you in them. It makes sense that your imagination would turn that familiar dynamic around.

For many women, this kind of fantasy isn’t about labels or roles. It’s about:

• seeing a partner differently

• sharing vulnerability

• stepping outside routine in a safe, intimate way

Those impulses come from connection, not confusion.

Take a moment to understand what draws you to it

Before deciding whether to bring this up, it helps to get clear with yourself.

Ask yourself:

• Is it the visual that excites me?

• Is it the idea of role reversal or shared play?

• Do I imagine this as something light and teasing, or more sensual and private?

You don’t need a perfect answer. You just need enough clarity to talk about it without apologising for how you feel.

How to bring it up without pressure

New ideas can feel vulnerable to share, so timing and tone matter.

Choose a relaxed moment when you’re already feeling close, not during a stressful or rushed part of the day. Keep it curious and playful rather than serious.

You might say something like:

“This might sound unexpected, but I’ve had this fantasy lately. You know how much you enjoy seeing me in stockings and suspenders? I’ve been curious what it would be like to see you in them too.”

That frames it as an invitation, not a demand.

It also helps to say early on that there’s no pressure — you’re sharing an idea, not asking him to change who he is.

Keep it light if he’s unsure

If he’s open but hesitant, start small.

Some couples find it easier to begin with:

• stockings on their own, without suspenders

• trying them on in a quiet, private moment, just for the two of you

• treating it as playful curiosity rather than a big statement

Keeping things low-pressure makes it easier for both of you to relax and enjoy the moment, whatever direction it takes.

If he isn’t comfortable

If your husband decides this isn’t something he wants to try, respect that boundary.

A fantasy doesn’t lose its meaning just because it stays in your imagination, and honest conversations often deepen intimacy even when the answer is no. What matters most is that you feel safe enough to share what excites you — and that he feels safe being honest in return.

You’re not strange, and you’re certainly not alone. Desire evolves over time, and curiosity is often a sign of trust, not trouble.

Go gently. Stay playful. Let the conversation matter more than the outcome.

If you do decide to explore this idea,  Please feel free to browse my range of premium Ballerina Stockings.

Intimacy isn’t about doing everything. It’s about being able to talk about anything.

— Abbie

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